congruous

It has been pointed out that I may have too high of expectations of men.

Perhaps. I just think everyone I meet will exceed my expectations. I set the bar very low sometimes. Now I sound vain. What I mean is that I do not really have an expectation per say. I just think everyone will behave like a human being. Do I want certain qualities in a life partner, yes. Doesn't everyone? I want to start out having more than one thing in common. I want our beliefs to be similar. Not that I want everything to be a parallel from his life to mine, that would make for a somewhat mundane life, but knowing each other with a look or communicating without actually talking are two big selling points for me.

I guess, Sam, that I just do not want you to change to get me to like you, and I do not want to have to change to keep your interest, from the very get go. We might change later, if the relationship were to flourish, but then we would be growing as humans, as a couple, and if we are already trying to be what we think the other wants us to be then we will grow further apart.

I do not have too high of expectations. I just have certain expectations that the man I spend my life with, the man who I adore and cherish and love, will be congruous with me. He will start out as my equal and treat me as he is treated, with kindness, generosity, respect and honesty. Those are the qualities I look for in a partner - perfection of my own kind.